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PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy)  draws on exciting, cutting-edge research in three areas.


The first is neuroscience, the study of the human brain. Understanding how the brain works provides a physiological basis for understanding how people act and react within relationships. In a nutshell, some areas of your brain are wired to reduce threat and danger and seek security, while others are geared to establish mutuality and loving connection.

Attachment Theory

The second is attachment theory, which explains the biological need to bond with others. Experiences in early relationships create a blueprint that informs the sense of safety and security you bring to adult relationships. Insecurities that have been carried through life can wreck havoc for a couple if these issues are not resolved.

Biology of Human arousal

The third area is the biology of human arousal—meaning the moment-to-moment ability to manage your energy, alertness,

and readiness to engage.


Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT).


How does Pshycobiological Approach to Couples Therapy work? 

It isn’t necessary to understand the scientific basis of PACT to realize its benefits. Your therapist has extensive training in PACT principles and techniques, and will guide you to overcome challenges you face as a couple.

hrough working with a PACT therapist, you and your partner will discover how to:

  • Stay connected

  • Help each other feel safe and secure

  • Manage each other’s emotional

  • Highs and lows

  • Fight well

  • Rekindle your love at any time

  • Minimize each other’s stress and

  • Optimize each other’s health


A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT) was developed by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT—clinician, teacher, and author of Wired for Love, We Do, Baby Bomb, In each other's careWired for Dating, and Your Brain on Love.

What does a session look like? 

Your experience during a PACT session may differ somewhat from what you might expect in other forms of couple therapy. For example: 

  • Your therapist will focus on moment-to-moment shifts in your face, body, and voice, and ask you to pay close attention to these in your partner.

  • Your therapist will create experiences similar to those troubling your relationship and help you work through them in real time during the session.

PACT tends to require fewer sessions than other forms of couple therapy. PACT sessions often exceed the typical 50-minute hour and may last 3 hours or more. Longer times allow for the more in-depth

work of PACT.


"Working with Tui has supported me to trust in my own intuition, build a stronger sense of direction and grow my ability to respond from a calm, honest, compassionate and loving place in all situations. Enhancing my own self awareness enables me to form relationships of mutual respect, knowing when to be flexible and when to be firm in my interactions, in alignment with my values and grounded in a strong sense of interbeing."

- Danielle Newton, Auckland Council.

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