Couples Therapy Auckland & Online
Struggling with communication challenges and constantly triggering each other?
Couples often seek therapy sessions with me struggling with:
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Recurring conflicts, triggers, and arguments
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Difficulty communicating and resolving issues
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Feeling stuck in unsustainable patterns with no respite or way forward
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Disconnection, lack of intimacy, or sexual mismatch
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Parenting struggles and blended family dynamics
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Betrayal—emotional, sexual, or financial
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Financial stressors and disagreements
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Challenges with extended family or careers
Many couples also carry a history of trauma, addiction, or mental health challenges.
Through Couples Therapy together, You Can:
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Resolve repetitive patterns and develop clear, effective communication.
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Navigate conflicts skillfully, creating win-win solutions that truly work for both of you.
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Feel your partner has your back and thrive together as true teammates.
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Experience a deep sense of connection, intimacy, and harmony at home.
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Feel encouraged to be your authentic self and deeply valued for your unique strengths.
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Build trust and a strong commitment to a shared, fulfilling future.
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Rekindle excitement and your hope for a thriving, joyful life together.
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Thrive as a parental unit and navigate extended family relationships with confidence.
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Feel confident and empowered in expressing your sexuality.
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Create a resilient partnership that grows stronger through life’s challenges.
About Couples Therapy with Tui
With over a decade of experience in the healing and personal transformation space, I draw on a range of proven modalities to help couples achieve meaningful and lasting change.
My training includes PACT™ (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy), Somatic Therapy, Somatic Experiencing™, trauma healing, and psychotherapy. I also bring a deep understanding of the autonomic nervous system’s role in relationships.
Having personally experienced the transformative impact of couples counselling and the PACT model while navigating the complexities of a blended family, I bring both professional expertise and personal insight to my work. This unique combination enables me to connect deeply with couples, guiding them through challenges and helping them build stronger, more resilient relationships.
I take an integrative approach, tailoring our work to your specific needs to help you access your innate ability to heal, grow, and strengthen your relationship.
In our therapy sessions, you’ll find a safe, confidential space to explore what matters most to you—at a pace and depth that feel right for you. Together, we’ll work to transform your relationship into one that is thriving, supportive, and deeply fulfilling.
Feeling Stuck in Your Relationship? Couples Counselling Can Help.
Are you feeling unseen, unheard, or stuck in cycles that never seem to change? Do you feel like you’re missing each other entirely, more like adversaries than partners?
Maybe the same relationship issues keep resurfacing, making you feel dismissed, anxious, or alone. You may be facing challenges with parenting, in-laws, or work. You might feel misunderstood or like you always compromise to keep the peace.
The Unique Dynamics of a Relationship: Insights from Couples Therapy
In no other area of life do we commit to such a deeply significant agreement without clearly defined terms. In most situations, like at work or when seeing a doctor, people clearly define roles and expectations. This leaves little room for confusion.
In relationships, however, people often overlook these crucial conversations. Couples frequently assume alignment without ever clarifying what it truly means to navigate life together. This lack of clarity, built on unspoken agreements, can quickly lead to misalignment and misunderstanding. When expectations remain undefined, the foundation of the relationship begins to weaken, leaving it vulnerable to unraveling.
A relationship is like a three-legged race—you’re bound together, striving toward the same goal. Without clear alignment, one partner may pull in one direction. The other partner may pull in another direction. This can create frustration and resentment. You might find yourselves pushing, shoving, or saying unkind things, even unintentionally.
At its worst, you can both end up on the ground, unable to move forward effectively, enjoyably, or quickly toward your shared goals. This state can leave couples feeling disconnected, isolated, and even hopeless.
Like a sports team, a business, or a band, a strong relationship should benefit both partners. It must be rewarding and satisfying for each person involved. Without this balance, you might question the purpose and value of the relationship.
Transform Your Relationship Through Couples Therapy
Working together in couples therapy you can shift old, repetitive patterns. You can build a partnership based on trust, ease, and connection.
Your partner can become your teammate and the person who always has your back—a safe place where you can truly be yourself. You are fully accept you for who you are and encouraged to grow even more deeply into your true self.
Like in a three-legged race, you will learn to move together, in sync. You will support and protect one another, uplifting each other as a united team.
Together, you’ll create solutions that are true win-wins, not compromises. By working together, you will create a partnership where success feels easy and shared. You will find it natural to support each other because you understand that your successes intertwine.
It can be a safe haven during tough times—robust and capable of supporting you through life’s challenges. This connection doesn’t just endure; it thrives, growing stronger with time.
You can find joy in each other’s company and laugh together.
This transformation doesn’t stop at your relationship. As a united team, you can become incredible parents, inspiring role models, and positive contributors to your world. Together, you can reach your dreams and enjoy life fully.
How Is This Different from Other Couples Therapy Sessions?
What sets this apart is its foundation in cutting-edge science. By integrating neuroscience, attachment theory, nervous system regulation, trauma expertise, and psychobiology, I support your transformation on a deep level.
This work goes deeper than just surface-level tools. It looks at how you respond to each other physically. This approach changes the way you interact as a couple, creating lasting change.
This work is highly practical and focused on helping you succeed as a team. In our therapy sessions, we address challenges in real time and practice new approaches together.
Unlike individual therapy, my role is to coach you as a couple. I help you find new and effective ways to interact with each other. If one of you wants individual therapy, I can support you to find a seperate individual therapist.
We tailor the approach to your unique dynamic as a couple. Together, you will create agreements that promote safety and respect your individuality. These agreements will help you reach your shared goals. This way, your partnership can grow and thrive even under life's pressures.
In any relationship, there are no angels or demons. You both chose each other. This choice means you share responsibility for the patterns, challenges, and solutions in your relationship. (This assumes the relationship was a mutual choice. Not all relationships start freely, some begin under external pressures or coercion.)
Recognizing your role isn’t about blaming anyone. It’s about seeing how your actions affect you as a team. Together, we can create meaningful change.
Relationships often touch our most tender points, shaped by instinct and past experiences. This work helps you protect and support each other through those reactions, while also building a connection that deeply understands and embraces those vulnerabilities.
In this process, you will heal old wounds. You will create a shared vision. Together, you will build a strong partnership that can handle life’s challenges.
The main goal is to give you the tools and skills to face future challenges on your own. This will make my role unnecessary. I aim to help you create a strong and connected partnership. In this partnership, you can solve problems together and keep growing.
Frequently Asked Questions:
How Can I Get an Idea of What Working Together Looks Like? Read Wired for Love (2nd Edition). This will help you understand the ideas we will discuss in our sessions.
What Are the Practicalities of Couples Therapy? We start with a 2-3 hour deep dive session to uncover what’s tripping you up and explore underlying patterns. Regular sessions follow every two weeks (1.5-2 hours). During challenging periods we may meet weekly. The goal is to help you operate as a cohesive, resilient team, equipped to navigate challenges independently over time. Sessions are either online or in Devonport (Tāmakai Makaurau / Auckland, New Zealand).
Do Couples Ever Split Up? Sometimes, couples uncover fundamental misalignments or deal-breakers that make continuing the relationship impossible. In these situations, we work together to carefully assess whether separation is truly the best option. In these cases, we take every step to ensure that separation is the right decision. We work together to help both partners during the transition. We focus on the well-being of everyone, especially any children.
How Is Couples Therapy Different from Individual Therapy? Couples therapy focuses on the relationship as a dynamic system rather than the individual experiences of one partner. It addresses real-time challenges, shared patterns, and how partners interact, communicate, and respond to each other. While individual therapy often centers on personal feelings, histories, and internal struggles, couples therapy works to strengthen the bond between partners. It prioritizes improving communication, fostering trust, and building resilience as a team. Couples therapy provides a space to tackle challenges in real time. With the therapist's help, couples learn how to interact and solve problems during the session. They gain real experience in working together. This offers a practical and hands-on way to create change. This teamwork helps the relationship grow. It creates a strong partnership that can face life’s challenges together. Ultimately, couples therapy equips both partners with the skills to communicate effectively, resolve conflicts constructively, and deepen their connection. This is not only within the partnership but also in the broader context of their lives. It fosters a relationship that is strong, balanced, and deeply fulfilling.
